Wednesday, March 30, 2005

Coming soon…

When I was a teenager (many eons ago it seems) I saw the movie “Cliffhanger”. There were several parts of the film that, at the time, felt like cliffhangers, like I was sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for something to happen…

So here is my pathetic attempt for a cliffhanger:

In the coming week, I will be announcing where Judy and I will be serving after graduation.

Stay tuned – if you care.

Roach ‘hanging’ out.

Tuesday, March 29, 2005

Last Days

So, I'm down to my last days at BBC. Here's the breakdown:

3 weeks left of regular classes
1 week of final exams
1 week of Grad-prep & graduation
1 week of intensive seminar

So in total 6 weeks and I'm done here for good, but I wish I could say I was coasting through. I have a TREMENDOUS amount of work left to do, including about 750 pages left of collateral reading (not including the reading required for research papers), a few major papers (2500 words +), and some busy work.

So I'm going to go out with a snap, crackle, POP. I think I'll be ok as long as I avoid all forms of life and anything that may appear to be enjoyable. (This isn't how I imagined my last days here on campus)
Roach out.

Monday, March 28, 2005

Psalm 16

In light of this past weekend, and the quote I made in the last post (“I’m so glad that Jesus died so I could have a long weekend”).

After I had that thought, that this whole weekend was all about me and me getting a break so I could get ahead in my school work, I felt the deepest sense of conviction. At a time when even those who do not claim to be part of the Community of Faith, are reminded that of Christ and his sacrifice, that I can be so irreverent and selfish and only think of me.

This morning I sat here reading Psalm 16 and here’s what it says:

“Keep me safe, O God, I’ve run for dear life to you.
I say to God, “Be my Lord!” Without you, nothing makes sense.

And these God-chosen lives
all around – what splendid friends they make!

[...]

My choice is you, God, first and only.
And now I find I’m your choice!

[...]

I’m happy from the inside out, and from
the outside in, I’m firmly formed.
You canceled my ticket to hell – that’s not my destination."

This is my prayer, this is my song.
Roach out.

Friday, March 25, 2005

Easter Feaster

"I'm so glad Jesus dies so I could have a long weekend"
- Mr. Irreverent

Here are the highlights so far on this Easter break:

=>I have been raping Soul Tsunami (Leonard Sweet) for class. Not bad stuff. I'll have to return to it to let it sink in
=> Having laughs and more good times with Aza (my own personal Aunt Jemima), Missy (friend of ours), and the Judster!!!
=> Watching and Re-Watching old SNL clip... (Will Ferrel as Michel Goulet sings hip hop has been played at least a dozen times)
=>Experienced a freak snow storm, below 20 degree weather (in american temp.)
=>Had supper with my brother Jamie (and received an early B-Day gift: a laptop bag)

Right now, the Mrs. & I are praying about some serious future stuff.

It's all good. Can't wait to get all this reading done (300 pages of 1200 total pages done)
With fried retina's:
Roach out.

Thursday, March 24, 2005

Frustration

For those of you from Michigan: West Side, you’ll understand my plight.

My laptop is cracked again. This is officially the 5th laptop I’ve had to return. It’s just a tad bit frustrating. Fortunately we have an extended warranty, and the damage is covered… but I’m slightly discouraged with the quality of product that I have been sold. Allow me to give you a history of Roach Laptop’s:

Laptop #1: IBM thinkpad

Purchased second hand from a student a BBC: died 3 days after purchase (plus I didn’t have an extended warranty from that student, so I lost out on that one)

Laptop#2: Emachine

Great machine, hinges cracked after day 1

Laptop#3: Emachine (replacement for #2)

Again, great machine, hinges cracked at day 12

Laptop #4: Gateway

Best Buy replaces Emachine with a Gateway with more hard drive space and sweet screen. Plus gave us 3 year warranty for $100. Not bad. Worked well for 2 weeks, then CD-Rom drive fried.

Laptop #5: Gateway (replacement for #4)

This one lasted 3 months…until the hinges cracked.

So right now I need to bring my laptop to a dealer, have them order a new one from Gateway…and quite possibly I might be without it for a while (which is not convenient)

Ok, so I’m done venting..

Roach “the hinge cracker” out.

Tuesday, March 22, 2005

Church Marketing Sucks.com

Read this great article posted on The Brew Crew's site (http://abookmark.blogspot.com/)

I especially like the part where he says "The church is a broken institution, made up of sinful people. And that's exactly the draw. We don't have to be perfect. We don't have to clean ourselves up. We come as we are"

Food for thought...makes me wonder why we do the things we do.

Roach out.

Monday, March 21, 2005

Lion & the Lamb

So I’ve ended the first book in the A New Kind of Christian trilogy, and I need to say how much this book has made me think. McLaren has great insight and really shows what a Christian will look like when he/she lives with an open heart. Anyway, I’m no recommending this book to everyone who may read this…it’s not for everyone. But if you’re ready to ask yourself some tough questions and allow someone else to ask them to you…basically if you’re ready to have you paradigms stretched and tested, this is a good resource.
Having rediscovered my love for reading and feeding my soul, I immediately started reading my new book by Brennan Manning called The Relentless Tenderness of Jesus. I don’t normally read intro’s or prefaces, but I felt since I paid for the thing, I may as well get my money’s worth and read it all. So, in the foreword (I especially skip these on a normal basis), Larry Crabb talks about the impact that some of his encounters with Manning have been. He then makes this statement as his review of this book:

“Radical Christianity. The real thing. An upending encounter with Jesus that changes everything. Experiencing His love. Letting the Lion tear away every false hope. Riding the Lamb all the way home.”

I love this thought, that a true relationship with Christ is letting him tear away all your false hope (those founded in yourself), replaced them with himself (as our only hope), and then brings us home on a journey filled with gentleness and relentless tenderness. It’s such a beautiful image of Christ being both the Lion & the Lamb. (now, for you theological purist, I realize that the image of the lamb is used for the sacrificial lamb, but work with me here)
The Love of God, the depth, breath and width of this great Love both acts as a breaking and healing love. It is both ferocious and unsafe as a lion and gentle and tender as a lamb.
Hope this touches your heart as it is mine.
Roach out.

Saturday, March 19, 2005

End of the beginning...

It would seem that everytime I end a large task, it only leads to another. Over march break I succesfully completed almost 600 pages of collateral reading (more like it did collateral damage to my retina's). But that only led to my his & dis paper, which albeit is only 1200 words, it still requires adequate research for good 'ol Dr. want to MAX-imize-my-learning-experience-WELL. This morning I reached 1300 words and felt a sense of accomplishement, only to be abruptly awoken to the reality that is my Doctrin of Holiness paper. So off the the library to pick up 10 large and impressive books with long titles written by important people (I'm sure).
[insert deep desperate sigh here]
On the bright side of today, the boys are coming over for Triad, and Judy got invited out by the girls for a day of shopping.
I am longing for the day that I am done here at BBC so I can spent my best hours serving, loving and living with people, instead of romancing these old dusty pages. [token secondary sigh here]
Roach *fizzling* out.

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Think!

Two days ago, I was having a conversation with a great friend (I’ll explain later what makes him so great), and I dropped on him a great quote off of Wally’s blog. Here’s the quote and the conversation that followed (it’s not as long as it looks)

Check out this quote: "If Jesus was half the revolutionary you claim, how come he is now represented by one of the most conservative, status-quo institutions on the planet?"

what do you make of it?

I like
it....Jesus was a revolutionary…he came to fulfill the law, bring wholeness....I think we stunt that as the Church - I don't think we can take that to extreme and "make" or "cause" change…but our lives should bring a desire for change in others, people, institutions, governments, cultures, just as the life of Christ did

how do you see that playing out?

hmmm....ok 20/20 - well....let me put it this way... Christ's life was sold out to his message, he lived what he believed...his life drew people to him, and his message caused people to take an honest look at their lives. He became a catalyst for change. Our lives should be like that...the disciples wanted to be like Jesus, they wanted to imitate him (not only because it was the cultural way, to become like a rabbi, but because they sought the deeper life, the life he lived)

man this is a loaded question...now that I read what I wrote, I feel like it was a patent modernistic churchy answer – ok, here it is: if we seek to love God, by being open to the love that is offered from the father, than the Spirit which is indwelling and empowering us, changing us, and create a revolution in our souls.... that revolution is contagious...love is contagious

just b/c it's Modern does not mean it's wrong
necessarily

yeah...but it means that it is only one vantage point. I think we need to approach these thoughts/concepts with a modern, postmodern, medieval, and ancient view...they all had something to offer - man, my head hurts now…I didn't expect to have to think this through...
Thanks for making me think.

This friend didn’t necessarily disagree with what I was saying or the quote that I shared, but he pushed me beyond the nice sounding statement and made me Think! about it, about what it meant to me, about why I thought it was good. That’s what makes him a great friend.
I think it’s dangerous to hide from these types of people (those who ask tough questions) and surround ourselves only with those who agree with our philosophy and ideology. The Word says that “as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” We won’t be sharp if we’re rubbing up against soft people.
Props to my man AP for being sandpaper, and sharpening me.
Roach out.

Saturday, March 12, 2005

The Scales of Justice

The surrogate parenting saga continues… in the past few days, we’ve had to increase the disciple to Nathan, the oldest. He kept pushing the envelope and increasing in his contempt and disobedience. So the other night we threw out the big guns. We sent him to his room for an indefinite amount of time (I know what some of you are thinking, pretty mild, especially when I look at my own childhood, it’s nothing compared to a tanned hide, but time in his room usually impacts him). Anyway, after an hour, we laid it out for him. Talked about why he was being punished, and his motives for hitting his brother and lying to us about it. So I told him that if he lied again he would spend the rest of the day in his room, regardless of what time it was. Made all the difference in the world (although part of me wonders if we’re just perpetuating behavior modification or is he really getting it).
Anyway, as Judy and I discussed what our motives for punishments and discipline are and should be, we saw that we disciplined them truly because we cared, and to protect them from the much harsher consequences in the world. For example, to discipline him for hitting his brother now, and learning the lesson now, he would avoid the harsher consequence of getting into a fist fight at school. So as we saw that our discipline was due to our love, I started to draw the parallel with God. His discipline flows from his love. His placing consequences for sin is out of love. To awaken us to the harsher truths.
Anyway, as a temp. parent, this is a huge lesson to get before we actually have our own kids.
I remember someone (I think it was Nate) who told me that having kids opens your eyes to the character and love of God in a whole new way. Boy was he right.
Roach out.

Wednesday, March 09, 2005

Surrogate Parenting & Brian McLaren

This past week, the Judster and I have been surrogate parents to two young boys. I'm loving it. It's tougher than I thought. Also I've been digging into "A New Kind of Christian" by McLaren, and loving it. The interesting and uber weird thing about these two experiences is how they are intriscicely connected in my journey. Both are really testing and expanding my paradigms. They are challenging my philiposphy and forcing me to make room for life, which can't be systematically compartmentalized.
shifting, changing, growing,
Roach out.

Tuesday, March 08, 2005

Towards a Nonjudgmental life

Here’s a great quote from Henri Nouwen
“One of the hardest spiritual tasks is to live without prejudices. Sometimes we aren't even aware how deeply rooted our prejudices are. We may think that we relate to people who are different from us in colour, religion, sexual orientation, or lifestyle as equals, but in concrete circumstances our spontaneous thoughts, uncensored words, and knee-jerk reactions often reveal that our prejudices are still there.Strangers, people different than we are, stir up fear, discomfort, suspicion, and hostility. They make us lose our sense of security just by being "other." Only when we fully claim that God loves us in an unconditional way and look at "those other persons" as equally loved can we begin to discover that the great variety in being human is an expression of the immense richness of God's heart. Then the need to prejudge people can gradually disappear.”

I really appreciate Nouwen. He calls us to a deeper life, something I think we should all be doing to each other (the calling to a deeper life, that is), but it requires to go on the journey, to walk through the valley before we can call others to it. Tough call.
Roach out.

Sunday, March 06, 2005

The Affirming Deceptiveness of Self-Servitude

Nate Weaver, a friend and Triad-ian, on our way to Michigan this past week, made an interesting observation about the account of Joseph in the first chapter of Matthew.

Here’s the account:
“Now the birth of Jesus Christ happened this way. While his mother Mary was engaged to Joseph, but before they came together she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph, her husband to be, was a righteous man, and because he did not want to disgrace her, he intended to divorce her privately. When he had contemplated this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, because the child conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son and you will name him Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

Here’s the observation:
Joseph’s plan was a good one. He could have approached the priest and had Mary stoned to death, by law. But since he was a good, righteous man, he desired to do what was good and right, and save Mary from public disgrace and end the betrothal quietly. That was his plan. But God had a different plan, completely different that what Joseph had planned. Here’s the thing: Joseph wasn’t wrong, his motives were pure. His plan was good, it was right…he was going to do a good and right thing. But it wasn’t God’s plan.
The more I thought about this the more it showed me an area of weakness in my life. So often I try to do the right thing, to do good thing. But I don’t take the time to check if it’s what God wants. Most recent example was my trip to Grand Haven. It was a good thing, for me, my wife, some friends and the relationships made during my internship. It was a right thing, there was nothing wrong with it. But as I reflect, I never checked with God to see if this was a step I should take. But more importantly, I didn’t check why I was doing it. Turns out the reason I went was all for me. Purely our of self. I missed my friends, I missed Watermark, I missed the kids, I missed my mentor, I missed G&L, I missed Diet Coke…all of it was about what I missed and taking care of my need. Maybe this was part of God’s plan, that I should go to GH, I mean great things came from it, but if I would have checked it out with the Father first, I may have seen that my motives were impure, experienced change and approached the weekend to serve and give rather than be served and receive.

Here’s the boiled down lesson:
there is a affirming quality, a deceptiveness that is found when we serve ourselves. Our plans are good, and right, and we see nothing sinful or improper about them, so we implement them. And the desired results of the plan come to fruition and we leave feeling that God has blessed our plan. We are deceived. Let’s allow God to work through us, rather than in spite. Let’s move to permit God to act preemptively rather than reactively. Check it out with him, and really get a hold of the “blessed plan” and avoid the affirming deceptiveness of self-servitude.
I hope this makes sense to more people than I, but at the same time, I’m so glad that I have learned from it. It really takes me to the Throne on a deeper level.
Checkin’ in to the hotel of surrender
Roach out.

Friday, March 04, 2005

Spring Break

“Praise God from whom all blessings flow” The Bible College Student’s spring break theme song.
This week the Judster and I are house-sitting/babysitting for a professor of mine. They have a 4 & 6 year old boys. We are looking forward to this trial run of our parenting skills. It should be interesting. We’ve already realized that I am very direct in dealing with “crisis” situations and Judy is much more patient and gentle, waiting for them to settle the problem.

Another sweet thing about spring break is I now have a chance to get ahead in some work, and read some great books. Some key readings this week will be (due to a generous gift from N8) A new Kind of Christian (Brian McClaren), Buck Naked Faith (Eric Sandras) and some others like The Relentless Tenderness of Jesus (Brennan Manning). I can’t wait. Tomorrow (Saturday) I’m taking my own advance (or for the purist, retreat) by going away to Moncton, seeing an old friend, and spending most of the day at Chapters (the Canadian version of Barnes & Noble) drinking Starbucks coffee and soaking in Truth. Man I’m excited.

To those who know The Gov., let him know that I am going to do something to daily feed my soul. Gotta love Gov-anisms.
Reading, relaxing, and rejuvenating:
Roach out.

Thursday, March 03, 2005

Über-Blessings from GH

Well, after 24 hours (one way) in a car during a snow storm, we made it home safely. We got in to Sussex at 7:30am, and went to class for 8.
The positive side to the long trip was a lot of discussion about the great weekend we had, and this reflection. I can only speak for myself, so I will.
It was so wonderful to see everyone. Had a great time staying at the Smith’s and hanging with my b-r-o to the t-h-a, Nate. Saturday and Monday, we spent some good time chatting and envisioning. What is great about spending time with him is that I always leave built-up, challenged to be a better man.
Being a part of Cession and Moto again was pretty sweet too. It was so cool to see the gang.
Judy and I got to hang out with Nate Lyons, Shyle and Drew Hunt on Friday night, so that was fun. Shyle had no idea we were coming, so she was pleasantly surprised.
Sunday morning was nice, but kind of surreal. Some people would look right at me and not notice, as if I had never left, then after a few minutes would realize who I was.
Some sad notes, I really didn’t have much of a chance to hang with Deurty, Gooch or Pot. Sad but life happens.
Anyway, to all the Watermarkers out there reading this, thanks for a great weekend. Somewhere in my colon there is a chili dog from G&L and Yesterdog floating around in an unnatural amount of Diet-Coke fountain pop. It was a great weekend, hope to do it again someday.
Roach out.